Why I became a parenting coach
I just couldn’t take it anymore. The whining and fighting made me feel like a terrible mom, and that just set me off to yell at my kids to stop. It was a vicious cycle and I didn’t know how to make it stop. What made matters worse was that our family business was struggling and I was worried about finances, I had just suffered a second miscarriage and was overcome by grief. I felt numb, guilty, and alone. The neighbors were complaining and my family pointed out the effects it was having on my children and myself. I couldn’t hide our troubles anymore. I had nothing left to give. I was at the end of myself.
When I was at my lowest point in my parenting I finally reached out for help. I took several parenting courses online and in-person. They were very helpful and I learned a lot of great parenting strategies. I also began to feel more confident as a mom. But something was missing. At first I couldn’t put my finger on it, until I realized that God was missing. There are many wonderful parenting courses and gentle parenting books, but so few came with a gentle Christian mindset.
I was wary of looking into anything labeled Christian because I wasn’t sure if I’d agree with the parenting style. There aren’t that many resources available for gentle, peaceful Christian parents. So I began to heal and transform myself with God’s help. Each time I worked through a portion of a course I was taking I went to God to see that it aligned with his word. Of course the Bible consistently points to loving and caring for each other with gentleness and patience.
What I noticed most was that many of the gentle parenting resources I found called for inner strength, and pointed at the individual as the one who could make the changes and transformation. But I knew I needed God. “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. Philippians 4:13” I was not alone. The transforming work on the Holy Spirit was alive and working in my family.
We are a different family now. Through our trials we have become even better than before because our Heavenly Father lovingly brought a change in the hearts of my husband and I. “ We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they help us develop endurance. And endurance develops strength of character, and character strengthens our confident hope of salvation.” Romans 5:3-4
It is because of this incredible transformation that God placed it on my heart to offer other moms the support I wish I had when I needed it most. I have taken all the strategies and information I have learned through my training as a parenting coach, placing God’s word at the centre in order to mentor and support parents. Joyful Mud Puddles offers support you can count on in your parenting journey.